Take the Relationship Quiz

Do they complain that you don’t spend enough time with them?

No, we both have our own lives.

Having independence and time to yourself is important and promotes a healthy relationship.

Sometimes, they insist on coming on my nights out.

This could be a sign that your relationship is unhealthy. Having your own life outside of your relationship is important. Learn about setting healthy boundaries.

Yes, they make me feel guilty when I make plans with friends. They say my friends are trying to break us up.

This is a red flag for abuse. If your partner tries to cut you off from seeing your friends or family this can make you very isolated. You might become dependent on your relationship, even if your partner mistreats you. You can chat to us for support and advice. Get Help

Do they say anything about how you dress or what you look like?

Yes, they complain about the clothes I wear and how I look.

This could be a sign of an unhealthy relationship. Your partner should accept and respect you as you are, no matter how you look and what you wear. Learn more about red flags of abuse

Yes, they tell me what to wear all the time

This is very controlling behaviour and is a red flag for emotional abuse. Learn more about emotional abuse

They give me compliments, but that’s it really.

A healthy relationship is when your partner accepts and respect you as you are, no matter how you look and what you wear.

Do they send you constant texts checking up on you when you’re not with them?

We keep in touch, but no more than I do with other people in my life.

In a healthy relationship your partner respects your need for time alone or with friends. Having independence and time to yourself is important and promotes a healthy relationship.

Yes, they are always messaging me. They have to know what I’m doing and where I am every minute of every day.

Red flags for an abusive relationship are when your partner:

messages you constantly
gets annoyed when you don’t reply straight away
asks where you are all the time
demands to know who you are with
You can chat to us for support and advice

Sometimes, they get annoyed at me if they don’t know what I’m up to.

This could be a sign of an unhealthy relationship. Your partner should not get annoyed or guilt-trip you if you don’t reply to their texts straight away. Learn more about red flags for abuse

Do they ever go through your phone or social media to see who you’ve been talking to?

Always. They demand my passwords to everything and look at all my messages.

This is a red flag for abuse. If your partner always looks through your phone and knows all your passwords this is very controlling behaviour. Get Help

Sometimes. They say we shouldn’t have any secrets.

If your partner looks through your phone, this is an invasion of privacy. In a healthy relationship your partner trusts you and doesn’t make you feel guilty or afraid. Learn about online abuse here.

No, they respect my privacy.

You have a right to privacy without your partner making you feel guilty or afraid. When your partner respects your privacy it shows trust in your relationship.

Have they ever posted or shared any explicit or intimate images or videos of you online?

No, but when we fight they sometimes threaten to post private photos of me.

Threatening to share intimate images of you is a crime. Learn more about this here.

No.

Sharing or threatening to share intimate images of another person without their consent is a crime in Ireland. Learn more about this here.

Yes. They have posted private photos of me.

Sharing intimate images of another person without their consent is a crime. Chat to us on our instant messaging support service if this has happened to you. Learn more about this here.

Do you feel like you are being watched or monitored by your partner?

No.

In a healthy relationship your partner trusts you and doesn’t need to know where you are, what you are doing or who you are seeing all the time.

I’m not sure. Sometimes they know about places I’ve been or things I’ve done that I haven’t told them about.

If you think they might be monitoring you, you should speak to someone you trust about it. Are they stalking or watching everything you do online? Learn more about staying safe online here.

Yes, I think they have installed something on my phone so they know where I am and who I’m with all the time.

This is a red flag for abuse. This is very controlling and dangerous behaviour. Chat to us on our instant messaging support service if you are worried. Get Help

Do you feel afraid to disagree with them in case they get angry?

Sometimes, if they are upset about something they are difficult to talk to.

Disagreements in a relationship are normal but if this starts to happen often it could be a sign that your relationship is unhealthy. Learn more about this here.

No, we have our disagreements but we both respect one another’s opinions.

Disagreements in a relationship are normal. A healthy relationship is when your partner respects your opinion.

Always, they have a really bad temper and I am always walking on eggshells so I just go along with whatever they say.

This is a red flag for abuse. If your partner makes you feel afraid or anxious this could be a sign of emotional abuse.

Do they ever hit, kick, or shove you?

Once, and I’m afraid they’ll do it again.

This is a red flag for abuse. Your partner should never hurt you, or threaten to hurt you. Chat to us if you are worried. Get Help

No, I feel safe with them.

It is important to feel safe in a relationship. Your partner should never threaten to hurt you.

All the time.

This is a red flag for abuse. Your partner should never hurt you, or threaten to hurt you. Chat to us if you are worried. Get Help

Have they ever forced or pressured you to do anything sexual that you didn’t want to do?

Yes.

This is a red flag for abuse. Your partner should never pressure or force you to do anything sexually you don’t consent to. hurt you, or threaten to hurt you. Learn more about this here.

Not physically, but they have guilted me into doing things before.

Being guilted into doing things sexually is not consent. Your partner should respect your boundaries. Learn about consent in relationships.

No.

Consent is important and should never be assumed, especially when you’re in a relationship with someone. Learn more about this here.

Do you feel afraid to break up with them for any reason?

No, I feel like I can if I want to.

Relationships can change over time. You should never feel under pressure to stay in a relationship if you don’t want to.

Yes, they say they will hurt themselves or me if I break up with them.

This is a red flag for abuse. Your partner should not threaten to hurt themselves if you break up, this is very manipulative. Chat to us if you are worried. Get Help

Yes, I tried to break up with them before but they made it too difficult.

This could be a sign of an unhealthy relationship. Your partner should respect your wishes. Learn more about this here.

Relationship quiz

Relationship Quiz