Sounds like: “You are perfect, I’ve never met anyone as perfect as you”, “My life would be nothing without you.” “I want to spoil you”
Looks like: Gifts, attention, constant text messages.
Feels like: You are under pressure to return their feelings, or feeling like you ‘owe’ them something.
Lovebombing is when your partner ‘bombs’ you with excessive attention and affection. The honeymoon stage can feel new and exciting but your partner could use their affection as a way to manipulate and control you later on. This can be dangerous, especially if you feel like you owe them something or can’t say no to them after all their attention and affection. This is a form of emotional abuse.
They might say:
- “I want to be with you all the time, you spend too much time with your friends”
This is a red flag. Your partner should encourage you to spend time with friends and family.
- “I was so nice to you today, why won’t you have sex with me?”
This is a red flag. Your partner should not guilt you or pressure you into sex.
- “I like to check on you because I get worried.”
This is a red flag. Needing to know where you are and who you are with all the time is very controlling behaviour. This does not show trust in the relationship.